ReflectionFriendship4 min
Coming back with nothing prepared
On second visits, friendships picked up again, and the value of showing up without a speech.
Translated from the Spanish original. Read the original
Years went by without us writing. There was no quarrel and no goodbye; life simply filled the gaps. When we finally met, I had several explanations ready. I didn't use any of them.
Coming back to someone doesn't always mean making up for lost time. Sometimes it's enough to show up, sit down and let the conversation find its own rhythm.
No script
Preparing what we're going to say protects us, but it also keeps us at a distance. The speech takes up the space where listening could have been. Arriving with nothing prepared is a modest form of trust.
Not every return goes well. Some confirm that our paths have parted. Even so, showing up simply lets us find that out honestly, without embellishment.
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